My name is Leyla and I have been so depressed about my persian nose ever since I was a young teenager. I am only able to get 3000 dollars that I am going to start saving on my own since I don’t come from a privileged persian family like most others do :(, my first biological iranian dad left my mom, me, and my sisters when I was two and when my mom remarried to another persian man, he was abusive and on drugs, so my mom divorced him only to leave us four girls poor and working to make a life on our own, my oldest is 30, I’m 27, my younger sisters are 23 and 20…After everything I have researched I feel the most comfortable if I could get a nose job with you since I want it to be the most beautiful nose ever. I get so jealous of the other persian girls whose parents have the money to get this done for them. However, I have read that you are probably one of the most expensive rhinoplastic surgeons. My credit is really bad but I can’t live with my ugly nose anymore. I am 40,000 in debt to student loans because I had to pay my way through school since I didn’t have anyone to help me. I graduated from UMCP May 2008, and my bills are overwhelming :(. Are there any options…I cry almost everyday because I hate my nose. I have hated it since I was a young girl and now I’m 27 and I still hate it. If you could help me in any way, you would change my whole life. I am waiting for your response, thank you so much for your time to read my email.
Hi. I think my reply would have been better in a private email but since you posted your question here and I did not have your email, I wanted to make sure you saw my reply.
First off I appreciate your detailed question. It is obvious that you have had a rocky life and not an easy one. The fact is most people around the world have rocky lives and the percentage of people born with “silver spoons in their mouths” is a fraction of 1%.
I want to congratulate you for graduating last year from University of Maryland. You should be proud of yourself for making the best out of things and striving for a better future for yourself and your future family – a better one than you had yourself growing up.
The fact is that the vast majority of my patients, including the Persian ones, do not have their moms and dads paying for their Rhinoplasty. The vast majority of my patients pay for their Rhinoplasty when the time is right and they are able to either pay for it or get appropriate financing without extra stress and strain on their finances.
The fact is that even my parents, who are two hard working doctors, did not have the extra cash lying around to pay for my Rhinoplasty years ago. I too had “a Persian nose” and I too wanted to get a Rhinoplasty badly back in High school and college. But I could not afford it then and I had to delay my surgery till I was nearly 30 years old and had a job and could pay for it myself.
I also appreciate the fact that you have $40K in student loans. That is a price we pay for education. Again, to put things in perspective for you, I still have $180K in student debt from years of college and medical school and residency. My wife has another $120K in student debt. Add that together and is $300K in student debt! It is a part of life in America. It is a part of the price you pay for education and for a brighter future.
On a more significant note, I am concerned about the extra ordinate emotion and emphasis that you have placed on your nose. At the end of the day, it’s just a nose. That’s it. Good or bad. It’s a nose. There is no need whatsoever to cry and be so depressed. There is no need to have feelings of jealousy towards others. These are all very negative and unhealthy emotions and feelings. There are thousands of people your own age who grew up with much worse circumstances. There are thousands of kids living with Juvenile Diabetes and Autoimmune disorders and who have had to fight and beat cancer. A nose is just a nose and when the time is right, you can improve it. But your nose should never ever affect your life to this degree.
Everything I am telling you is from personal experience and genuine caring and concern. My own younger sister and brother were born with birth defects on their faces that affected them throughout their childhood and followed them into their adult lives. A “Persian nose” is no reason to be so depressed and upset.
In fact, with your current state of emotion, even if you walked into my office with a suitcase filled with $1 million dollars in cash, I would not do a Rhinoplasty on you until the time that you have taken this extra ordinate and unhealthy emphasis off your nose and show a more happy and positive outlook on things.
Finally, we do not offer any discounts on surgery because it would be a huge slap in the face and an insult to our other patients who pay full price for their surgery. This is elective surgery. Do it when the time is right. But first, put away the mirror and stop hating your nose and start appreciating the positive things in your life even if you have it rougher compared to your friends around you.
Love yourself first and the nose job can be done in the future.